Funerals & Memorial Services
When someone we love dies, we need somewhere to turn.
A funeral is a time to remember a life, to grieve together, to give thanks and to seek God's comfort and hope. At the Kirk of the Holy Rood, we offer Christian funeral services that honour the person who has died, support those who are grieving and proclaim the hope we have in God.
Funeral services can take different forms. Depending on your circumstances and wishes, the service may take place: At the Kirk of the Holy Rood, a funeral provides an opportunity for family and friends to gather in the church, remember the person and worship together. At a crematorium, the minister can also conduct a service at the crematorium. At another appropriate location, please speak with us about your circumstances and we can explain what options may be available.
A funeral can be personal
The funeral doesn't have to be formal or impersonal. Perhaps your loved one was quiet and private. Perhaps they were the life and soul of every gathering. Perhaps they had a deep faith. Perhaps they rarely went to church. Perhaps they loved football, gardening, music, baking, travelling or simply sitting around the kitchen table with family.
Their story matters.
We will take time to listen and help you find the right way to remember them.
Memorial services
Sometimes a family wants to gather together after the funeral to remember someone they love. A memorial service can provide space to: Remember and give thanks, hear favourite readings, share memories, listen to music, pray, light candles, mark an anniversary, remember someone who died some time ago.
There is no timetable for grief.
A memorial service can be arranged when the time feels right for you and your family.
What happens when someone dies?
1. Contact the funeral director
In most circumstances, the funeral director will contact the minister or church on your behalf.
2. We arrange a meeting
The minister will meet with you, usually with close family members, to hear about the person who has died. This is not simply a meeting about paperwork. It is an opportunity to tell their story.
3. We plan the service together
We will discuss: the person's life, Bible readings, music, tributes, family participation, prayers, the order of service and any particular wishes you have.
4. The funeral
On the day of the funeral, we will be there to welcome you, lead the service and support you through it.
5. After the funeral
The funeral is not the end of grief. The church remains a place where you can find prayer, support and companionship in the weeks and months that follow.